midlife woman

When Something is Missing

There are times, even when life is good, that we can feel as if something is missing, that feeling is your heart reminding you to stop and listen.

Midlife, for so many of us is a time of dissatisfaction. It is a time that reminds us that we haven’t done what we want to do with our lives, and it is a reminder that we don’t have forever to do it.

Late life is also a time to pause and reflect because our society encourages us to retire and for many that is when they stop believing they can fulfill their dreams.

Not so long ago I started feeling as if there was something missing from my own life. I love being part of a community and spending time with friends, but I felt as if there was something more that I once had that I no longer had, but I wasn’t sure what that was. I jumped from one idea to the next as I have a tendency to do until I reminded myself to pause, ask and listen.

It wasn’t long before I received several emails, and a couple of calls from former students, who had worked with me via teleconferencing or Zoom, saying how much my work had changed their lives, those calls reminded me how much I loved teaching and that I felt happiest when I connected with the participants. I feel as if I still have so much to share.

The tussle between the head and the heart

The tussle between the head and the heart

There is often an ongoing tussle between my head and my heart. I still get caught up in what I feel I ‘should’ do, rather than doing what my heart wants me to do. My former students reminded me that I can teach without giving up any of the things I love to do it. There is enough time, space and energy to add more in.

So, taking another leap in faith, which I have spent my life doing, I am starting a new Zoom course called Midlife Possibilities, and if the interest is there I would love to train coaches to work with this age group.

I have wanted to work with people in midlife for the past couple of years because midlife was such a life changing period in my own life, but I talked myself out of it. I also wanted to work with people in late life as this is an age group that is often ignored, yet one with so much wisdom to share. I want to encourage and support more women to use this time to blossom into the person they were born to be. And I want to do more work with the personality archetypes I developed because this knowledge can be life changing.

So, I am on a mission to encourage women to start dreamilng again because our needs don’t change, just the way we fill those needs changes, and what we consider our life purpose evolves at different life stages.

This quote by Florence Scovell Shinn, is one that I have always lived by:

“There is a place that you are to fill that no-one else can fill, something you are to do, which no-one else can do”.

You are never too old to dream and to act on that dream.